Showing posts with label family life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family life. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 18, 2016

School Update ~ ZoKo ~ mid-October 2016

ZoKo's Academic Record

2016-2017 school year hours: (as of 10-15-16)
Science... 44.00 hours
Math... 57.75 hours
Social Studies... 89.50 hours
Language Arts... 26.00 hours
Reading... 27.25 hours
Art/PE/Health... 62.75 hours
Practical Arts/Foreign Language... 54.75 hours
     Total hours... 352.00
Remaining hours... 648.00 total... 17.75/week... 2.75/day

Current High School Transcript: (as of 10-17-16)
SCIENCE: (.75 credits total)
     Biology - .75 credits - 4.0 GPA
MATHEMATICS: (1 credit total)
     Algebra I - 1 credit - 2.7 GPA
SOCIAL STUDIES: (1.50 credit total)
     Bible & Christian Character - 1 credit - 4.0 GPA
     World History - .50 credits - 4.0 GPA
LANGUAGE ARTS: (1.25 credits total)
     Classic Literature - .25 credits - 4.0 GPA
     English I - .5 credits - 3.0 GPA
     Miscellaneous Literature - .25 credits - 4.0 GPA
     Thematic Literature - .25 credits - 3.7 GPA
PHYSICAL EDUCATION: (.50 credits total)
     Recreation - .50 credits - 4.0 GPA
PRACTICAL ARTS: (.75 credits total)
     Child Care & Development - .25 credits - 4.0 GPA
     Household Management - .50 credits - 4.0 GPA
FINE ARTS: (.50 credits total)
     Visual Arts - .50 credits - 4.0 GPA

Overall Cumulative GPA: 3.7

Main areas of current studies:
-Algebra I
-Art Appreciation (Art History)
-Bible & Christian Character
-Biology
-Classic Literature
-English I
-Human Anatomy
-Instrumental Music (Guitar)
-Russian I
-World History

Notes:
- She has finished the World History textbook, and is just shy of a third quarter credit in coursework. The remainder of the course will consist of reading, video, and online supplements until a full credit hour has been reached. She will be starting primary US History studies shortly.
- She needs a few more hours of Thematic Literature in order to achieve another quarter credit, but finished the textbook. She will do the remainder in reading lessons in order to acquire a half credit hour of Thematic Literature. She should be starting World Literature studies by the end of the month.
- While Algebra 1 has reached a full credit hour, she has yet to complete the textbook. She will be finishing the course and counting the allotted time toward full math hours for annual records, but no additional high school credits will be received. A final course GPA will be calculated out of the total coursework at the end of the textbook.

School Update ~ KiKi - mid-October 2016

KiKi's Academic Record

Current credit (grade level) breakdown (as of 10-17-16)
Science... level 2.25
Math... level 3.50
Social Studies... level 1.25
Language Arts... level 2.75
Health Education... level 1.00
Physical Education... level 2.00
Fine Arts... level 1.75
Practical Arts... level 2.50

Current hours for the 2016-2017 school year: (as of 10-15-16)
Science... 45.00 hours
Math... 89.75 hours
Social Studies... 13.25 hours
Language Arts... 37.00 hours
Reading... 11.75 hours
Art/PE/Health... 66.25 hours
Home Economics/Practical Arts... 88.00 hours
     Total hours... 351.00
Remaining hours... 649.00 total... 17.75/week... 2.75/day

Current areas of study:
Science - biology, ecology, physics, scientific technology
Math - consumer mathematics, logic and reasoning, patterns, sorting and matching
Social Studies - Bible and character, government, sociology
Language Arts - English (communication), reading
Health Education - personal hygiene
Physical Education - exercise, motor skills, walks
Fine Arts - art appreciation, music appreciation, visual arts
Practical Arts - building skills, clothing construction and care, computer operating skills, food and nutrition, household management, life skills, practical crafts

Thursday, September 29, 2016

Life Update ~ Practice Makes Progress

You know the old saying of "practice makes perfect"? Well, I need a re-write. My life isn't perfect. In fact, very little about my life is perfect, and honestly, I don't want it to be. At least not by society's standard of proclaimed perfection. I'm going for progress. Just some kind of effort being made to demonstrate that things can get better, and evidence that they have. Slowly. Very very slowly at times...

My daughter was having yet another meltdown explosion when I came to the realization that we needed a slogan that was much more forgiving than the seeking of perfection. In one of the many self-help books I've read lately, the author introduces the concept of "Imperfect Progress". This is the idea that most of our would-be progress is held back based on the fear of lacking perfection in our attempts. The gist of it is that we will fail. Repeatedly. But as long as we learn something and attempt to make progress, failure is better than the fear that keeps us from even trying. That's what grace is for.

So it was during yet another screaming episode from my 12-year-old that I waited for her to take a few breaths and asked her about the importance of practice when something is hard (such as self-control). The angry mutter of "practice makes perfect" came out of her mouth. Nope, wrong answer. So I told her that I'm not expecting perfection from her, that'd be ridiculous and way way too hard for her to get even close to in her current emotional state. Instead, I want her to just simply try to do better. Make progress. Practice makes progress. You may never achieve perfection, which is fine, because that's an unreachable or unsustainable goal in most instances anyway. But the only way you'll make progress is by trying - by practice. It took several times of walking her through our new "practice makes progress" slogan before she caught on to the full implications of it, but by the end she was less weighted down and had much more realistic expectations of herself (and the rest of the world). I'm not saying that the fight is over, or that she'll keep track of this idea in the heat of the moment - at least not at this point in time. But as long as we both can remember that concept after the cool down period is over, and find some sort of progress to be claimed, than it's served it's purpose in helping everyone through a hard spot with a little more grace in the moment.

So there it is, practice makes progress. Now, if I can only find a way to convince myself that progress is "good enough". Baby steps, right?

Monday, September 26, 2016

Life Update ~ Here's To Life...

Life's been hectic here. We spent most of last week prepping for our biannual Free-For-All event, which took place this last weekend. This season's event ran Friday-Sunday, with great success. We gave away books, toys, clothing, and household items to over 100 people during the three-day event. We also had several people donate items to the cause, which is always a tremendous blessing.

After spending all week sorting through items to put them out on Friday, we had to clean out the trailer in order to relocate the Christmas Project storage from the garage into the trailer. Three filing cabinets and over a dozen plastic tubs later, and our Christmas Project storage has a new permanent home! I'll get pics up from the inside of the trailer after we do a little reorganizing and make it look semi-decent. :)

Today was spent trying to get ZoKo's school efforts sorta back on track after she took Thursday-Sunday off in order to help out and get some Service Learning credit in. Speaking of credit, she's earned five quarter credits in the last week, all A's; Bible & Character, Visual Arts, Child Care & Development, Recreation, and Biology.

As for my little corner of the world, expect some book reviews coming in this week - I've got four books on my waiting list right now. Whichever ones I don't get through this week will be done during the weekend, since I'll have plenty of reading time at the KAMO rally.

I'm sure I've got plenty more to say, but I can't come up with anything at the moment, so until next time... Peace.

Sunday, September 11, 2016

VBS Postponement & Manny's Visit To LifeWay

Manny (the Accountability Tiger), Paperback, Wilbur, Rotti

We decide to postpone this weekend's VBS lesson until Wednesday because this weekend ended up double booked anyway, and my Mutt cracked his head badly on Thursday and is still dealing with the aftershocks of a concussion. So it was one more thing than we could rightly handle.

Meanwhile, all of the kids got VBS shirts on clearance from LifeWay for their Submerged theme. We don't have any curriculum to go with it, but the kids have a collection of old VBS shirts that gets added to every time I find a new one on clearance. :)

After getting shirts for the kids, Manny (our Accountability Tiger) decided he needed one. So I went back and took Manny into the store, which was a huge deal for him seeing as how he hasn't been in a store since we rescued him from a flea market. He was super excited to try on shirts until he found one the right size. The employees thought it was cute and were watching him; apparently not many tigers frequent the local LifeWay.

Anyway, Manny got his shirt and picked one out for Rotti (ZoKo's rottweiler) as a surprise. He got it home and Wilbur (B's pig) and Paperback (Odie's dog) wanted to know where theirs were. So, after our third trip to LifeWay in two days, all of the kids and their critters each have a matching Submerged VBS shirt.

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Upcoming Events And Posts To Expect

For those of you who don't know us in real life, it's been hectic around here. The last two weekends we've ended up short half the herd, which is why the VBS Bible sessions have not been updated. It's not that I'm neglecting my duties here, just that we have been postponing them until the whole herd is back together again.

Our current family itinerary for the next month or so is complicated, but then since when do we take the easy road?

September 9th-11th - Grandparent's Day and Gospel Light's SonRock VBS day 4 (Bible Story: Peter denies Jesus; Daily Truth: Forgiven by Jesus)

September 16th-18th - Gospel Light's SonRock VBS day 5 (Bible Story: Peter helps a lame man; Daily Truth: Living for Jesus)

September 23rd-25th - We'll be hosting our autumn biannual Free For All in support of the Springfield Stocking Stuffers project. If you're local, this is a great time to pick up free books, toys, and miscellaneous household stuff. We're still sorting through boxes so no telling what all will be included.

September 30th-October 2nd - We'll be attending the local KAMO rally. Expect pictures.

October 7th-9th - We'll be starting our journey through The Story study program by Randy Frazee. We're still negotiating as to which curriculum level we'll be working with this first time through the program, but expect pictures and updates either way. The program consists of 31 weekly lessons, but it'll take longer than 31 weeks to go through it due to breaks for holidays and such.

Looking Ahead:

November 4th-6th - We will take a break from our weekly studies of The Story, instead reflecting on the persecuted Christians worldwide for the International Day Of Prayer (November 6th). To do this, we will utilize The Voice Of The Martyr's Exile Night curriculum. I will post more information about this event a week or so before it takes place, so anyone who wants to follow our journey and participate is encouraged to do so. There are free resources on their website.

November 18th-20th - We'll be taking another break from The Story, and participating in the Open Doors Blackout event, as another activity to reflect on persecuted Christians worldwide. The official Blackout has 24 or 48-hour options, and is a sign off from the internet - things like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram in conjunction with praying for the persecuted. We plan on using the 48-hour version, and expanding it to be a Blackout from all electricity (with the exception of taking pictures for posterity). Again, I will post more information closer to the event, so please join us (at any level of participation) if you feel compelled. Visit their website for free resources.

If you have any input on any of these events, or would like more information - please drop us a line or comment below.

I also plan on continuing to post about one book review a week, depending on how quickly I receive books from publishers and how much free time I scrounge up to read. Right now, I'm working on seven books, so I should be done with one of them soon. If you have any reading suggestions for me, let me know. Thanks :)

Saturday, September 3, 2016

KiKi - Homeschooling Update - September 2016

Kiki's Academic Record (as of 09/03/16)

Current credit (grade level) breakdown.
Science... level 2.00
Math... level 3.25
Social Studies... level 1.25
Language Arts... level 2.75
Health Education... level 1.00
Physical Education... level 1.75
Fine Arts... level 1.50
Practical Arts... level 2.00

Current hours for the 2016-2017 school year:
Science... 23.25 hours
Math... 53.00 hours
Social Studies... 9.75 hours
Language Arts... 23.25 hours
Reading... 8.00 hours
Art/PE/Health... 26.75 hours
Home Economics/Practical Arts... 51.75 hours
     Total hours... 195.75
Remaining hours... 804.25 total... 18.75/week... 2.75/day

Current areas of study:
Science - biology, ecology, physics, scientific technology
Math - consumer mathematics, logic and reasoning, patterns, sorting and matching
Social Studies - Bible and character, government, sociology
Language Arts - English (communication), reading
Health Education - personal hygiene
Physical Education - exercise, motor skills, walks
Fine Arts - art appreciation, music appreciation, visual arts
Practical Arts - building skills, clothing construction and care, computer operating skills, food and nutrition, household management, life skills, practical crafts

Thursday, September 1, 2016

ZoKo - Homeschooling Update - September 2016

ZoKo's Academic Record (as of 09/01/16)

2016-2017 school year hours:
Science... 30.50 hours
Math... 43.50 hours
Social Studies... 52.25 hours
Language Arts... 21.25 hours
Reading... 16.00 hours
Art/PE/Health... 31.75 hours
Practical Arts/Foreign Language... 31.50 hours
     Total hours... 216.75
Remaining hours... 783.25 total... 18.00/week... 2.75/day

Current High School Transcript:
SCIENCE: (.5 credits total)
     Biology - .5 credits - 3.7 GPA
MATHEMATICS: (.5 credits total)
     Algebra I - .5 credits - 3.0 GPA
SOCIAL STUDIES: (1.25 credit total)
     Bible & Christian Character - .75 credits - 4.0 GPA
     World History - .50 credits - 4.0 GPA
LANGUAGE ARTS: (1.25 credits total)
     Classic Literature - .25 credits - 4.0 GPA
     English I - .5 credits - 3.0 GPA
     Miscellaneous Literature - .25 credits - 4.0 GPA
     Thematic Literature - .25 credits - 3.7 GPA
PHYSICAL EDUCATION: (.25 credits total)
     Recreation - .25 credits - 4.0 GPA
PRACTICAL ARTS: (.50 credits total)
     Household Management - .50 credits - 4.0 GPA
FINE ARTS: (.25 credits total)
     Visual Arts - .25 credits - 4.0 GPA

Overall Cumulative GPA: 3.7

Main areas of current studies:
-Algebra I
-Art Appreciation (Art History)
-Bible & Christian Character
-Biology
-Classic Literature
-English I
-Human Anatomy
-Instrumental Music (Guitar)
-Russian I
-World History


Tuesday, August 30, 2016

KiKi Doing A Color By Number With His AAC Device

The last time that KiKi was doing a color by number picture, I simply had him point to the right number on the color key. This time I decided to step it up a notch. I used his AAC device to display a number screen for him to select the number that corresponds to the number for each spot on the mosaic design.



Step 1) KiKi points to the correct number on his AAC device to match the number shown on the next open space which he wants to put a colored foam sticker on.


Step 2) KiKi points to the spot on the mosaic design where we wants to place the sticker, correlating it with the number he pointed to on his device.


Step 3) I give KiKi a foam sticker of the correct color to match the number that he has pointed to and matched on the mosaic. He places the sticker onto the design.

He spent about 2.5 hours working on this one design today, and has not finished it yet. He'll be taking it to speech therapy tomorrow to show his therapist his progress. Out of all the pieces he placed on it today, he only tried to misplace two pieces. Both of which were ones where he got distracted after getting the sticker and forgot which number/place that sticker went with.

Reading Time = Doggie Nap Time


This is what happens when the dog gets tired of being a foot rest for the kid - the kid becomes a head rest for the dog... On a side note, the cat that usually takes advantage of reading time to lay right where the dog's head is in this picture was very emotionally scarred at having to give up his cat cushion for a few minutes. Right after this picture was taken, he tried to cram his way onto her back despite the dog being in the way, but just couldn't get comfy. Three's a crowd.


Saturday, August 27, 2016

Everything Happens For A Reason

Everything happens for a reason.

This is probably my biggest catch-phrase in life. Everything happens for a reason.

Yesterday, it was a gas station purchase in the afternoon that saved someone else's day by evening.

Today, it was a misplaced cell phone that led us to a few things we'd been looking for for quite a while.

Let me explain. Everything happens for a reason...

...Yesterday's Story...
     I hit the grocery store to do our weekly shopping, without hitting the ATM first like I usually do. My whole routine was out of whack because Kiki was having a hard day. Again. So, instead of using the ATM, I was stuck getting cash back at the register. $100. The cashier asked if I had a preference as to how I got it, and I told her I didn't care. Normally I do, I hate carrying anything larger than a $20, such a pain to break large bills some days. But, at that moment, I was just in a hurry. So she handed me one $100 bill.
     A few hours later, I hit the gas station with my husband and we purchased a few drinks. Normally, I would have paid with a smaller bill (I had some on me), but instead I felt compelled to hand them the $100 for a few drinks totaling less than $5. Followed promptly by me wondering why I'd just done that as we left the store.
     That evening I went shopping alone. I ended up dawdling on going toward the cash registers due to some very rude and obscene customers that were at that end of the store. I'm the type that tries to avoid confrontations. So I killed time. About fifteen minutes, until they left. At that point, I get in line. Two people in front of my. The guy that's front in line gets ready to pay, and realizes all he's got is a $100 bill. At the Dollar Tree. He asks if they can break it. Nope, they just gave most of their change to that rowdy group ahead of him. Discouraged, he apologizes to everyone else in line and the employee for wasting her time and heads for the door. Suddenly, I remembered the stop at the gas station. I pull out my billfold to double check. 20. 40. 60. 80. 100... I manage to quickly utter "I can break a hundred" just as the guy is grabbing the door handle to leave. It takes a second to sink in before he turns and comes back over. Yes, I broke his hundred. Yes, he finished his purchase and left while thanking me repeatedly. The cashier thanked me to, as she'd felt bad to have to turn the guy away for not being able to make change.
     If it weren't for skipping the ATM, or the stop at the grocery store, or breaking the bill at the gas station, or the rowdy kids that I killed extra time to avoid, that guy wouldn't have been able to finish his purchase. Some times that one little thing you do can have a much greater impact than you can imagine.

...Today's Story...
     We decided to head down to a museum in Arkansas on a drive today, and stopped at an Arby's en route. Once we get about five minutes from the museum, I find the "no guns allowed" signage on their website and we decide not to bother with it. So we re-route and head for Eureka Springs instead. Lovely city, and we haven't been there since our wedding 5 years ago.
     Well, a while down the road, our daughter mentions that she left her purse in the Arby's restroom. Back in Missouri. Then she tells us that her cell phone was in her purse. First off, the phone isn't allowed to be with unless we tell her to grab it, which we didn't because we weren't going to be away from her at all on this trip. Second, it definitely had no business going into an Arby's where we'd all be seated at the same table. Third, she'd been reminded not to leave things in restrooms repeatedly. So that turned into a bit of a lecture. The trip to Eureka Springs was cancelled, about 30 minutes away from our destination.
     I called Arby's (thank you for giving us a receipt with your phone number on it), and they said they'd found the purse already and would hold it. Okay. So we drove back to Missouri and got the purse.
     After getting the purse, there was no point in trying to go back to Arkansas - nothing would be open by the time we got there. So we talked for a few minutes, and decided to check out The Bunker surplus store in Oklahoma instead. It wasn't that far of a drive from where we were.
     At The Bunker, we found three windshield wiper blades for our trucks. Ones we've been needing to replace but didn't want to pay online prices and shipping for. Ones that we've never come across locally before.
     After we left The Bunker, we headed back to Missouri and hit a bookstore on the way home. There we found three books in the bargain section that had been on our wishlist. They all came home with us.
     So if our daughter had followed the rules and left her phone at home, or if she'd left it in the car, or simply remembered to bring it back out after our stop at Arby's - we wouldn't have found the windshield wiper blades we needed or the books we've been looking for. Yes, she still got in trouble for breaking the rules. But some days, it's helpful to be able to look at it and realize that even things that appear wrong or bad can still turn out to be good.

Everything happens for a reason.

Peace.

Thursday, August 25, 2016

To The Lady At The Bookstore...

To the lady looking at the Jesus Calling books in Redeemed Books today... You don't know me, or my son, or my daughter. And you'll never know how much your kindness means to us. My son just finished his 4th appt this week, when we went into Redeemed to look for a few books. He hit overload and started going into a melt down shortly after we walked in. I took him to the bathroom and waited for him to calm down so we could go back to looking. He loves books. He did well after we got out of the bathroom, looking at a few racks with patience and slight intrigue at the pretty colors. When we finished that row, he was ready to leave. But mommy took him to one more row, and he was done. Throwing himself, kicking, screaming, hitting. I hold him and keep him from hurting himself, because we can't leave until he's done or we just reinforce this reaction every time he doesn't get his way...
Then you came over to our aisle, looking at the devotionals alongside us. And while I'm dealing with my son, my daughter says hi and attempts casual small talk to show you this isn't something to worry about - it's our version of normal. But you keep looking at me and my son, and I brace myself for the inevitable criticism as you ask how old he is. 8. And his name? KiKi...
Next you do the unthinkable. You pick up a book. And show it to him. And you start counting the other matching books piled in front of him... And he stops screaming, and he waits as you point to another book. As his meltdown is suddenly ended by sheer distraction, he watches you in amazement. I steal that moment of distracted awe and tell him we can go now and usher him to check out. Happy and ready to go on with his day...

I told you thank you several times. But honestly, there aren't enough thank-you's in the world for what you did... Mommy trying to distract him doesn't work anymore, he knows mommy. A stranger trying to break into his world - even for a second - totally confounds him. To the point that he forgets to scream. And kick. And hit... He becomes the little boy that's no longer having a bad day and just wants to be happy with his world.

My son is KiKi. He's 8 and deaf and autistic. And having a very very long week. But your few moments of grace brought him peace and serenity in a way I can never describe. Thank you.

Saturday, August 13, 2016

KiKi's Art - Mosaic By Numbers

     During the last few weeks, I've been on several shopping sprees through the clearance sections of ChristianBook.com. One of these shopping sprees led to buying assorted mosaic sets for KiKi to complete as art projects. And as "math" time because they force him to match the number on the color key to the number on the art piece before placing a colored square in each position. This is a major step for him. The matching concept is something he's mastered, but he's not used to having to match numbers. Especially since the numbers themselves mean nothing to him, they're just complicated abstract symbols. Top that with the fact that some of the background colors vary from the color the kit expects you to place in that area (all the squares themselves are white to make the number stand out), and this is a very difficult and complicated task.

     For instance, in the lion below, you can see that the base area of the mane is colored with red squares (as was indicated by the number), but the background around those squares is reddish brown which made KiKi want to use brown instead of red.


     There was a large amount of frustration from him attempting to just match colors to the background rather than matching the numbers, but eventually he figured it out and had a 90% accuracy by the end of both the above pieces. In total, he spent over 2 hours working on the lion, and about 1 1/2 hours doing the hippo. But, in the end, he was satisfied with his work.

     This entire kit cost $4, and there are 10 more pieces for him to complete in the future. I kind of went overboard and ordered one copy of each of the mosaic kits they had on clearance, so with 4 different Veggie Tales kits in addition to the rest of this one, I'm really glad that this is something he ended up enjoying.

Friday, August 12, 2016

The Secret Life Of KiKi

     This is one of those days where you're really glad it's Friday (payday). Today's shopping list just got expanded with one expensive item, lexan. For those of you that have never had the pleasure of a kid that breaks out windows and are thus not acquainted with this wonderful thing, consider yourself lucky. Our last house was a rental. As KiKi broke out windows, we would replace them with glass. Cheap glass... But, since we're buying this house, that's not a long term solution.
     He has two windows in his room. Each window has an upper pane and a lower pane. The first pane got broken out within a week of us moving in. The second pane was shattered a few months later. We've now been living here for 11 months, and the third pane just said farewell.


     For those of you who are not experts at distinguishing broken glass in crummy cell phone pics, the black curved line to the right of the wooden post, extended all the way to the bottom of the window. The right side of that line is open space, the left side is glass (minus the bottom left corner which is also broken out).
     How does this happen? Mostly from him playing with his toys. His stuffed animals love to be thrown around and tend to bounce off walls (and windows) frequently. We've worked hard to train him to limit most of the damage to his bedroom. This is the sort of thing that happens overnight when he's playing instead of sleeping. He doesn't sleep much.
     Thankfully, he's never hurt himself while breaking a window or during the time between when he does it and when we find it in the morning. Enter the lexan. Lexan is plexiglass. It comes in different thicknesses, and the good stuff is thick enough it won't bend but clear enough it looks like glass. You can still push the pane out if there's an emergency, but it doesn't shatter and risk cutting KiKi up if a stuffed critter or ball goes flying and hits it.

     Returning to the concept of damage control. KiKi digs through boxes and scatters things. He shreds paper and cardboard and leaves it everywhere. We've gotten him to stop shredding books, for the most part. If they're his and get left in his room overnight, then they'll be meeting the trash can by morning. He used to scatter his toys all over the house, but now it's mostly limited to his bedroom and beads on my dining room floor.
     Another quirk of his is to get rid of things that don't fit in. So if there's a piece of loose paint, he's going to peel it. If there's a slight hole in a wall, he'll dig at the sheetrock to try to remove the are so it can be fixed... These are not good traits in a fixer-upper house where half of the walls have imperfections of some sort. We now have boards screwed in over some holes, bookshelves are strategically placed to block others, and pictures tend to be hung in very specific places as well. If he can't see it, he leaves it alone.
     But, as stated, this only works in areas that are not his personal bedroom. His bedroom is his safe space. It's the only place he can be himself 24/7. It's his retreat when we have company. It's the place that all of his stuffed animals and paper shreds and beads can stay all over the floor until mommy comes through to clean it every other day. And within a few minutes, it's a wreck again. But it's his wreck. His bedroom used to have a light, it doesn't anymore because he tried removing it. We took it out before he hurt himself. Especially since pain doesn't slow him down unless there's an audience he can play too. Frustration at things not cooperating will make him scream, but pain doesn't. Most people that don't know him don't understand this difference. The outlets in his room are all disconnected from wiring for the same reason. They're still physically there, but there's no juice going to them.
     Here's the thing, whoever painted his room last used their easy peel off paint. So some was a little loose when he moved in. A little loose turned into this very quickly...



     The walls were green. With pink under the green. Most of the areas he can reach are now down to bare sheetrock. We plan on replacing his walls with wood eventually, since he seems less aggravated by it. But until then, he's leaving the sheetrock alone, and repainting it would just cause him to peel it again, possibly damaging the sheetrock in the process. Damaged sheetrock would then lead to him picking at the sheetrock. Again. Sheetrock dust is not something you want your kid playing in. I wish I didn't know that first hand.

     As stated, his bedroom is his safe retreat area. No one outside of our house goes in there. I'm not ashamed of it (although I am terrified of what the wrong person might think), but it's not something you brag about when having a friend over for coffee.

     This post is a reality check, dedicated to the people I know who scramble to patch sheetrock in their living rooms, sweep cardboard shreds into the closet, and don't have quite the right number of bookshelves to strategically hide life's imperfections. This is life. Whether you pin it on autism or other neurological problems, or just a kid prone to meltdowns on bad days. It doesn't matter. You love them, hold them close, and do the best you can to let them have their own little piece of this world.



     Because in the end, you still find them in the hallway, shredding yet another piece of paper. Peace.

Wednesday, August 10, 2016

ZoKo Homeschooling Update - August 2016

ZoKo is 12 years old, and she's my little sponge, already in High School. I plan on just posting a list of accumulated credits annually, as well as monthly updates on her current status. That being said, this post is going to run longer because I haven't posted since she started high school courses.

Main areas of current studies:
-Algebra I
-Art Appreciation (Art History)
-Bible & Christian Character
-Biology
-Classic Literature
-English I
-Human Anatomy
-Instrumental Music (Guitar)
-Russian I
-World History

2016-2017 school year hours (as of 08/06/16):
Science... 17.75 hours
Math... 34.00 hours
Social Studies... 32.25 hours
Language Arts... 15.50 hours
Reading... 9.75 hours
Art/PE/Health... 12.50 hours
Practical Arts/Foreign Language... 23.75 hours
     Total hours... 135.50
Remaining hours... 864.50 total... 18.50/week... 2.75/day

Current High School Transcript:
SCIENCE: (.5 credits total)
     Biology - .5 credits - 3.7 GPA
MATHEMATICS: (.5 credits total)
     Algebra I - .5 credits - 3.0 GPA
SOCIAL STUDIES: (1 credit total)
     Bible & Christian Character - .75 credits - 4.0 GPA
     World History - .25 credits - 4.0 GPA
LANGUAGE ARTS: (1.25 credits total)
     Classic Literature - .25 credits - 4.0 GPA
     English I - .5 credits - 3.0 GPA
     Miscellaneous Literature - .25 credits - 4.0 GPA
     Thematic Literature - .25 credits - 3.7 GPA
PHYSICAL EDUCATION: (.25 credits total)
     Recreation - .25 credits - 4.0 GPA
PRACTICAL ARTS: (.25 credits total)
     Household Management - .25 credits - 4.0 GPA
FINE ARTS: (.25 credits total)
     Visual Arts - .25 credits - 4.0 GPA

KiKi Homeschooling Update - August 2016

KiKi is 8 1/2 years old, and he's my resident "unschooler". His main educational goals are to learn basic life skills and focus on communication and making sense of his little world. In order to get a rough "grade level" for each subject, I use a base credit of 130 hours per subject, divided in 32.5 hour quarter credits. When he fulfills 32.5 hours toward a specific topic, I count that as a quarter credit toward the main subject. So 32.5 hours of biology equals 1/4 credit of science... One full credit of a subject equals a grade level equivalent, simply adjusted to his actual learning ability and progress. Basically it means that 2nd grade science is a statement that he has two years of work in toward science, not a traditional 2nd grade science level...

When you're dealing with an 8 year old that is deaf, non-verbal, can't read, wears diapers, and still struggles to feed himself some days - the traditional standards kinda go out the window. But he is learning, and he is making progress. At his own speed...

This is his current credit (grade level) breakdown, which I plan on updating monthly.
Science... level 2.00
Math... level 3.25
Social Studies... level 1.25
Language Arts... level 2.75
Health Education... level 1.00
Physical Education... level 1.75
Fine Arts... level 1.50
Practical Arts... level 2.00

His current areas of study are as follows:
Science - biology, ecology, physics, scientific technology
Math - consumer mathematics, logic and reasoning, patterns, sorting and matching
Social Studies - Bible and character, government, sociology
Language Arts - English (communication), reading
Health Education - personal hygiene
Physical Education - exercise, motor skills, walks
Fine Arts - art appreciation, music appreciation, visual arts
Practical Arts - building skills, clothing construction and care, computer operating skills, food and nutrition, household management, life skills, practical crafts

His current hours for the 2016-2017 school year (as of 08/06/16):
Science... 11.00 hours
Math... 25.75 hours
Social Studies... 8.25 hours
Language Arts... 13.00 hours
Reading... 4.00 hours
Art/PE/Health... 18.25 hours
Home Economics/Practical Arts... 34.75 hours
     Total hours... 115.00
Remaining hours... 885.00 total... 19.00/week... 2.75/day

Tuesday, August 9, 2016

Here's To Us (explicit content)

   I just finished going back and reading all of my posts on this blog to date. All of them. Every. Single. One... It took a minute...

   My Mutt and I have been married a little over 5 years now, moved last summer, and have a lot more cats than we used to. Our new house is a run-down fixer-upper that was being held hostage by several squatters when we were first offered the place. It needs work. Lots of work. But it's ours, or at least it will be once we finish paying it off. We're not in the country like we'd like, but we have enough land for an ounce of privacy and the freedom to (mostly) be ourselves.

   As for our marriage, it's had its up's and down's. Don't they all?... The last year and a half has been a massive roller coaster. I got a phone call with a very dark and gruesome reminder of the past I'd left behind. Then the nightmares started. Then someone close to me betrayed me and the nightmares got worse. Needless to say, sometimes the past has a tendency to not want to stay buried. And it almost wrecked our marriage. Not because of things my Mutt didn't know (we have no secrets), but because of how badly I was coping with life. Depression and anxiety hit in full swing with max pressure.

   After a little over a year of trying to "move on" again, I stumbled across a book entitled, "Healing The Wounded Heart", by Dan Allender. It's for adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse. There's even a workbook to go with it. This has been a major game-changer for me. I'm still having anxiety and depression problems, but I'm learning how to accept myself as I am. Or at least I'm trying to. I'm trying... It's a very long and very hard journey, but my Mutt has chosen to walk this path with me, and together we're working on it. For anyone that has dealt with this kind of trauma, read the book. Use the workbook. It's hard. It takes time. Lots of time. But it seems to be helping me find the strength to grieve and reintegrate that broken part of my soul.

   I read the book. Then I read it to my Mutt. Then we started doing the exercises in the workbook, which is divided into two halves: one for the survivor, the other for their spouse or support person. The workbook has been slow going. We started with half an hour, twice a week (per the book's suggestion). I couldn't handle that. So we kept modifying the schedule, and are now just focusing on it for 15 minutes, once a week. It's hard for me. I'm doing the exercises out loud, saying my answers as I write them. And I'm still terrified that my Mutt will be too ashamed of my shame and walk away. That's what years of shame does to us. It builds up. It eats away from the inside. And you mostly don't even notice it, because you're so used to it being there.

   I have some other updates, but they'll come later. This post isn't fit for them. Some things are meant to be kept separate from the rest of your world until you can drag the entire tangled, half-rotten mess out all at once. THIS is one of those things. To anyone else in a similar boat, keep rowing. You'll make it to shore eventually, just have faith. All storms come to an end in due time. Peace.

Tuesday, August 2, 2016

The cat's new bedding shelf...

     I spent today moving around some furniture and trying to reorganize a few things. This cube shelf had been on the back porch since our move. Behind a few large wooden trunks, and more furniture, and boxes. I decided it would be perfect in the side hallway, leading to the library. So I dug it out, cleaned it off, moved it inside, through the house, and around a sharp corner. Then I loaded it with bedding that had been getting moved from pile to pile with no real place to call home...

Five minutes later...

     At least someone is grateful for all my effort and hard work. Looks like I just spent three hours getting the cat a cozier place to sleep.

Wednesday, July 13, 2016

Precious Is Life

     We lost Precious, our resident "momma kitty", yesterday due to a blood parasite from a tick bite. She was a feral momma that we'd taken in last summer when our dog found her and her four very young kittens half-starved under a wood pile out back. She had no signs of sickness or anything being wrong until yesterday morning when she wouldn't stand up or come over to get petted. We got her into the vet as soon as they opened, but she passed away around noon.
     This verse was in today's Bible reading, and it hit me. Hard. It'll never have the same meaning to me as it once did. It's amazing how much our perspective changes over time. Peace.


Tuesday, June 7, 2016

Meet Mountain and Dew

   We spent a week at church camp in Florida. On the way home, we found a very pregnant cat that someone had ditched at a gas station. She was sitting in front of each car that stopped at the pumps, trying to find someone to shelter her from the rain storm. We're suckers. Enter Signal.


Signal on her way home, June 3rd
The kittens shortly after birth, June 6th
The kittens at one day old, June 7th
     Meet Mountain and Dew, the newest additions to our little posse. Mountain is the darker one and Dew is the lighter one. It seemed appropriate coming from a mommy named after a gas station.